If hating humanity is one of your more interesting points that you pride yourself on then you are very boring and are not invited to my birthday party, ever, and there’s gonna be cake and you can’t have that cake
the constant struggle of “should I reread one of my favorite books because it’s so amazing and it makes me happy every time i read it” or “should i read a new book and expand my horizons” is SO FUCKING HARD
as hard as i try not to be, i can be a really pretentious bitch sometimes when it comes to the arts. it’s out of love for my field, but i know that’s not an excuse for personal interactions and i’m sorry if i hurt any feelings
We all experience bouts of loneliness at times. It is common during times of flux and change (such as starting university or breaking up with someone). But it can also overwhelm us when we’re with a group of friends, so we feel disconnected … as if we don’t belong. So what can we do to keep loneliness at bay?
1. First, don’t isolate yourself – When you’re feeling lonely it is hard to go out and be with others who seem to be OK, and don’t really notice how lonely you feel. But putting up a wall and withdrawing from your friends will only intensify that sense of loneliness, and will further undermine your self-esteem.
2. Second, keep yourself busy – Do things that you normally enjoy with others. For example, listening to a band or maybe going to watch a game … or you could always try something that’s new, but interests you! That would allow you to connect in a non-threatening way … as it takes the focus off talking, and off you.
3. Third, be kind to yourself - It’s likely that you regularly beat yourself up, criticise yourself and are unrealistic in the kinds of expectations that you have for yourself. So what, if it goes wrong? You can always try again – just learn what you can from the experience. And notice your successes and the times when it goes well. It’s likely that this happens a lot more than you think!
4. Fourth, recognise that we ALL battle loneliness at times - You’re not some kind of freak – it’s actually quite normal. It something we’ve all known and understand.
5. Fifth, talk to someone you like and trust – It can really help to talk about your feelings with a family member, a friend or counsellor. It relieves some of the painful sense of isolation – and help to get your life back in perspective again.
1. Rather than listening to the voice in your head that is screaming “I hate this; I don’t want to do this” think about why it is a GOOD thing to do. 2. Instead of trying to pretend that you don’t feel this way, accept that you are feeling very blah and negative. 3. Don’t think about results and how well you think you’ll do, as this could raise your feelings of anxiety and fear, just think about “right now” and the first thing you can do. 4. Accept that life is tough, and is full of things that suck – but recognise that doing hard stuff is better in the end. You’ll likely have more choices and freedom, if you do. 5. Just do a little bit for now – then give yourself a proper break – then go back and do some more – and soon you’ll find you’re in the flow. 6. Don’t allow your mind to wander and think of other things. Stay focused for that short time – and then stop, and have fun.
i love it when teenage boys make edgy jokes and theyre just laughing but ur not laughing. they say shit like “oh come on it was funny”. you still arent laughing. you can see their soul shrivelling before you, you can see the fear in their eyes